Being Flexible
I used to think that someone either has a flexible personality or not (and I was one of the not’s). As plans were changed on me or things didn’t go my way, it didn’t feel like I was able to bounce back so easily.
Then I started becoming curious. What is a flexible personality anyway? Are there times I can be flexible, that go with the flow type of gal?
I began to notice that when I didn’t take my thinking so seriously, when I wasn’t so attached to an outcome, when I saw my expectations for what they were (thought created experiences that I decided were the truth), I found myself being resilient.
I saw how I was creating my own experience of inflexibility by being so invested in thinking I was right. I also made your being wrong mean something. For example, it’s not ok to be late, it’s a lack of integrity if you change plans without fair warning, or it’s inconsistent to change your mind.
All of these beliefs are what create the feeling of inflexibility. We live in the feeling of our thinking. As our relationship to our thinking shifts and we take our thinking less seriously, our feelings of inflexibility vanish.
Being flexible is who we are and what we do when we are in the moment and not in our head about the moment.
