A Paradigm Shift

The following is a talk I gave for a series called Doing Discomfort With Dignity:  Overcoming Stress and Anxiety I’ll just tell you a little bit about myself.  Up until 12 years ago, I had no idea that I was creating my own unhappiness. In my late teens and early 20’s I struggled with an eating disorder which basically means...[ read more ]

Doing Discomfort with Dignity

It seems we are all on a quest…to feel better, myself included! How much energy, time and space in our minds would we save if we weren’t on this constant quest? Innocently, within our desire to feel better we are actually creating our own discomfort. What do I mean? By definition, wanting to feel better means I am not OK...[ read more ]

Enhance Your Seminary Experience

I was speaking to a girl in seminary now and she was describing how much harder the transition was for her than she ever expected. Feelings of overwhelm, loneliness, insecurity, self-consciousness, FOMO of other friends having a better time than her, thoughts of I'm not normal, everyone else is adjusting better than me, it's hard to make new friends, and...[ read more ]

Ever Been in a Funk?

I've slowly been coming out of a funk over the past few weeks. It's so interesting what I saw as an "observer" of myself during this funk. First off, it felt horribly depressing. I had no motivation to do anything, no creative juices flowing and I felt like I was just surviving the day. There were so many moments of...[ read more ]

Who Are You?

A colleague of mine suggested a book for me to read and what I love is that truth is truth no matter what words or language is used. Different things resonate for different people, yet the message still seems to be the same. Who are you? Are you a combination of your past experiences, your thinking and feelings, your personality?...[ read more ]

This Special is For You

I just had a conversation with a woman struggling with anxiety who has tried so many different therapies, medications and approaches that she wanted to know if this approach could really give her the relief she is looking for or is it possible that she is the exception and nothing can help her. I felt her pain so deeply. After...[ read more ]

Finding Compassion for Yourself

A dear friend invited me to attend a retreat. My biggest take away was the gift of being incredibly present to a level of compassion I've never experienced before. I'll try to describe it. Imagine giving yourself permission to just be. To be yourself, flaws and all. Not covering up vulnerabilities, taking off the mask of persona, totally raw, like...[ read more ]

Your Peace of Mind is NOT for the Taking

I heard Dr. Pettit say, "The only person who has the power to take away my peace of mind is me." This means that no one else and nothing else has the power to take away my peace of mind...unless I let them, unless I use my free will to give them that power, unless I believe (a stronger word...[ read more ]

Darkness is Depressing…or Not!

When I was in my 20's, I got anxious just thinking about winter coming with less daylight, cold and dreary days ahead. I believed I had SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) and the winter and lack of sun were the reason I felt mildly depressed during those months. Then in November at the age of 28, I got engaged. As winter...[ read more ]

Deeper than Positive Thinking

There is this belief out there that if we just think positively, we will be happy, yet most people find it hard to do most of the time. I think it’s hard for two reasons. The first reason is that there is a world of thought we live in that we don’t even see as thought. The second reason is...[ read more ]

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By Aviva Barnett, MSW

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