Peace of Mind within our Community

If I had to describe my vision of a healthy community with peace of mind (whether in a family, workplace, shul, or even all of klal yisroel), it would be a group of people who listen to each other, value each other, see the good in each other and help each other. This environment, by definition, means a place without...[ read more ]

Living Outside the Box

Recently, a client asked me a question while we were exploring her perception of what being a good wife and mother meant to her. During this time, she concluded, "So, are you suggesting that I live outside the box? To let go of preconceived notions and expectations that I might have about what being a good wife and mother are? To not...[ read more ]

Working on Ourselves

Since Rosh Chodesh (the first of the month) is always a time for teshuva (contemplating our actions and returning to our true selves and G-d), I found myself davening this morning and reflecting on the idea of "working on ourselves." There seems to be a deep rooted belief that the only way to grow and change is to work really...[ read more ]

Our Children are Resilient

Our children are resilient. It's true. Not only is this an inspiring and hopeful thought, but an empowering one as well. Knowing that our children are resilient, and ok no matter what, in turn gives them the strength to handle trying times, difficult feelings and even apparent setbacks. You may ask, "But what if I don't believe in this resilience?"  What if...[ read more ]

Definition of Parenting

Parenting, as defined by Wikipedia, is "The process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood." While Google may provide countless lists of parenting techniques and how to accomplish this, I'm here to provide a unique perspective. Instead of learning techniques for proper parenting, I encourage focusing more on your...[ read more ]

Parenting Yourself

When we hear the expression Parenting Yourself what comes to mind? Caring for your inner child? Being the adult in your life that you feel you missed as a child? I want to first ask, who is yourself? Is it the hurt little girl? The anxious teenager? The confused and lost adult? The obsessive thinker? The stressed out mom? The...[ read more ]

Parenting yourself and your child: What are your eyes on?

Do you ever feel like it's hard to parent your children who are struggling when you yourself are struggling with the same things? Our tantrums may look different, our insecurities may be about different things and our habits may be more ingrained, but really from a human perspective, we are not much different than our children. Discomfort is discomfort. Anxiety...[ read more ]

High Stakes

I had a couple of calls from women this week with real dilemmas. After going to many different types of therapies, one woman is still considering leaving her husband. The other one is plagued by the choices she has made and how destructive they have been for her marriage and children. The guilt is plunging her into a clinical depression....[ read more ]

Purim: Finding Calm in the Storm

With Purim approaching, it's quite appropo to talk about being calm in the midst of a storm. We can all go on about costumes, meltdowns, children on sugar highs, trying to coordinate deliveries, all with a smile on our face, while preparing a big meal for lots of guests. A few moments of presence can be worth everything. My intention...[ read more ]

Which Glasses am I Wearing Now?

Someone asked me to meet with her 14 year old daughter because she is struggling with insecurity about fitting in with her friends and constantly ruminating about what they are thinking of her. After I shared with her the idea that thoughts are like a stream and they naturally flow and change on their own, I gave her an analogy....[ read more ]

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