Feeling Better

Most people believe the answer to feeling better is controlling or changing their thinking because if you have positive thoughts you’ll feel positive.

However, the real lasting answer to feeling better is in shifting your relationship to the way you feel. Meaning learning to be OK with feeling discomfort.

Deep down we believe that feeling anxious about events, insecure in our relationship or disappointed with our bodies is a problem. This belef is what feel’s bad. Not because anxiousness, insecurity or disappointment is a problem, but because we think it’s a problem.

Consider the possibility that if I didn’t think certain feelings were off limits, they wouldn’t be. That kind of freedom would naturally lead to feeling better because as layers of limiting beliefs fall away, lighter feelings emerge.

The only caveat is that you can’t think “it’s not a problem” in order to feel better because that won’t work. You have to really believe feelings aren’t a problem. You can’t trick yourself.

If feelings are a problem for you, I invite you to get curious and ponder what if I wasn’t afraid of my feelings? What if distressing feelings weren’t a problem?

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By Aviva Barnett, MSW

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